What happens when you tell a “housewife” to get a “hobby”…

16 07 2007

What happens when you tell a “housewife” to “get a hobby”.

A hobby??…..Mmmmm, now why didn’t I think of that…when I said I’m bored that translates into having an hour or so with nothing pressing to do. As far as actually DOING something is concerned, just FYI: (you’ve opened a bee’s nest here!!)
1. I DO NOT have a full time maid. I would not like having her under my feet 24/7.
2. I keep a home together and functioning, like a well oiled machine, for a family of four (plus various pets). That includes ALL the cooking and doing ALL the laundry.
3. I do volunteer work for Ancestry24 transcribing documents.
4. My genealogy work (note – “work” not “hobby”) keeps me busy for 3-4 hours a day.
5. My growing responsibility towards the care of my mother weighs heavily on me. My brother and sister live too far away.
6. I am the conduit through which all things pass in my family – I mean my whole family – whether I like it or not. I have unwittingly become the “glue” that tries to keep it all together.
7. I am wife, mother, friend, daughter, taxi driver, confidant, shrink, nurse, chief cook and bottle washer, coordinator, organizer, chef, cleaning lady, general handy “man” and sometimes, just sometimes, I have an hours or three to spend as I please.
8. The work I do, like that of countless other “stay-at-home-moms” is a thankless, silent and unappreciated job from which there is NEVER respite. 24/7/365.
9. The perks of the job? Knowing that I have raised, almost single-handedly, 3 of the nicest, well-mannered, hard working, honest, fun-loving kids that I know of. The Platinum credit card doesn’t hurt either.

I was going to apologize for this tyrade, but hell no. Your comment about getting a “hobby” so as not to be bored, just pissed me off, big time. Being bored is only a case of my (temporary) bad time management.

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16 07 2007
Arbchick

By the way….respect….

16 07 2007
Dusty Muffin

Jislaaik nossie, who pissed on your battery?

16 07 2007
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btw – nice blog. give’ em hell!

17 07 2007
Dusty Muffin

Aha! I thought it was a blogger what did it…

17 07 2007
Spoegs

Nossie – I know what you need, and I think you know too. How about a game of Twister, baby?

17 07 2007
Dusty Muffin

Spoegs, you are such a tart! Are you bored with me already?

17 07 2007
Spoegs

Crusty – you’re great – why don’t you join us if thats alright with you Nossie?

17 07 2007
Dusty Muffin

Harrrummmppphhh. I’d rather watch…

17 07 2007
Spoegs

Sounds great Crusty, Dolce you keen? If thats alright with you Nossie?

17 07 2007
Nossie

Ahem….I’m over here. I’m with you Dusty, watching sounds like a lot more fun and a lot less effort required. *is it too early for a double Jack?*

17 07 2007
Dusty Muffin

Looks like poor spoegs is going to have to play by himself.

I’ll have one too, thanks.

17 07 2007
Nossie

Spoegs, please be very careful with those matches….as I said before- for God’s sake get a woman, and fast!!

Do you take that neat, with ice and a splash of lime? Comming right up!!

17 07 2007
Spoegs

Nossie – I assume that’s a no then? Think of it – We can sell tickets to the first Amagama Twister Challenge – Nossie vs Spoegs. Looks like Dolce and Crusty are keen. Anyone else – we can sell Double Jacks to spectators.

17 07 2007
Semisweet

I need a triple jack, neat please…just found out that exam results are out and I havent got mine yet…damn stupid email policy in this place blocked the email….now Im hyperventilating!

17 07 2007
Nossie

So Spoegs, tell me, something very traumatic must have happened to you during a game of twister – is that the only game you know or do the memories of that particular game just haunt you?

Semi, breeeaaath…dont stress, I’m sure you did fine. The bottle store is still open if you hurry. I dont have that problem…my booze cabinet has been replenished and the keys are hidden from thirsty lodgers.

17 07 2007
Semisweet

Still havent got my email yet so dont know my fate. Not stressing too much now. Will tomorrow again. I hate this feeling.

17 07 2007
Dusty Muffin

nossie – sometimes more truth can come from a stranger/ blogger than you realise, precisely because they are not near and dear to you.

semi – what exams did you write? can’t you check a website or something?

17 07 2007
Semisweet

Dusty – I agree. Sometimes just chatting to someone you dont know can have such an impact cos they are objective and impartial. They are not involved in any way. They can be more honest with sugar-coating.

Its for a professional qualification and no, results are not on the website 😦

17 07 2007
Dusty Muffin

semi – what do you do? or is this too personal, and making you jumpy? *evil cackle of potential stalker…not*

17 07 2007
Semisweet

Im an internal auditor….Im studying towards my certified internal auditor professional qualification. Passed 3 of the 4 parts to the exam…this is the last one.

What do u do dusty?

17 07 2007
Dusty Muffin

LOL semi! I’m a bookkeeper! Have my own business with three staff. Respect – the thought of doing auditing gives me the heebie jeebies. You go girl!

17 07 2007
Semisweet

Thanx. Im just not so confident abt having passed this exam. It was just shyte.

Hmmm…maybe I can buy into your business and provide internal auditing services/risk management to clients that may want it 🙂

17 07 2007
Dusty Muffin

hmm indeed. is an option. but won’t make you rich, as most of my clients are sole props or mega micro cc’s. where do you live?

17 07 2007
Semisweet

Im in Jhb. I dont want to work for a boss anymore. Just waiting to pass my exams and then will see what Im going to do.
Where are you?

17 07 2007
Nossie

Dusty, yes, your are right again. But when someone near to you does not know what you do all day, when they are supposed to, that hurts like all bloody hell. Maybe I should just NOT do all the things I do fo a day or three and wait to see how they cope….shades of shit hitting the fan again – maybe not, maybe I underestimate them. Semi and Dusty – respect to both of you. I was never good with numerals.

17 07 2007
Semisweet

Thanx Nossie.

Maybe the solution is to like you say not do anything or you can switch with them for a day or four and let them do all the things you do in a day while you sit and watch rugby and drink beer 🙂

17 07 2007
Nossie

Semi, you are wise beyond your years. Good luck for the results. Be sure to let us all know how it went. I’m off to beddies now. I’ll have to keep one foot on the floor to stop my bed from spinning me right off!!

17 07 2007
Semisweet

Thanx but I wish I was. Have a good night Nossie. Sleep well. Swt drms.

17 07 2007
Dusty Muffin

Semi – I’m in CT, so it won’t work.

But trust me girl, there is so much opportunity out there it is scary. Just look at the Jobs Offered columns. Pages upon pages of number crunchers are needed by the corporates. But I must tell you – personal service is the bottom line. Screw that up and you’re gaar: Make your client feel unique, and you’ll be turning them away in no time. All of my business is referrals – and I’m sure it’s from dinner table chatter:

“My bloody accountant – ignores me, takes so long to do anything, and then charges me a fortune for the privilege”

If you think that’s NOT where you’re at, you’ve got it made.

17 07 2007
Dusty Muffin

nossie – semi’s right.

G’night.

17 07 2007
Semisweet

Damn. I could do CT, lol

I know there are opportunities out there. I just need to figure out what/how Im going to do it and then get started. I can do personal service cos I know its important.

Glad your business is going well. Word of mouth is how it all works. Its also abt who you know to spread the word. Good luck 🙂

17 07 2007
Dusty Muffin

semi, if you are serious about CT, there are two smallish businesses I know that desperately need accountants. Once you’ve spent a year or three with them, you’ll have made enough contacts to go solo.

Think about it.

If you really are serious, email me: dustymuff@gmail.com

P.S. Remember that the salaries in Slaapstad are kak, but you get to look at the sea and a big chunk of rock all day 🙂

17 07 2007
Semisweet

Im always serious abt moving to CT, if for nothing, but to look at the sea and the big chunk of rock 🙂

I will def send you an email and then see what happens. I just wanna get my studies out the way and then focus on what I want to do.

Thanx Dusty *hugs*

17 07 2007
Dusty Muffin

pleasure treasure

17 07 2007
Semisweet

and there I thought you were such a hard-ass *no offense* 😉

17 07 2007
Dusty Muffin

me? hard-ass? pfffft.

17 07 2007
Semisweet

lol…u a sweetie. Thanx 🙂

17 07 2007
Arbchick

Oiy Dusty, Semi – what ya bitches doing up!!!

17 07 2007
Semisweet

Same thing u doing up Arbie. Y arent u asleep?

17 07 2007
Arbchick

B…corse…I is a VAMPIRE

17 07 2007
Dusty Muffin

AAAARRRBBBIIIIEE!

Hello hun

Watcha wearing?

17 07 2007
Semisweet

Vampires are good. Guess she’s draped in black Dusty

17 07 2007
Arbchick

Dusty baby!!!!! Good to see you – I’m wearing a tea towel – you?

17 07 2007
Dusty Muffin

Ew. Fluts spewed tea earlier. Hope it’s not into the same tea towel. Is it a black tea towel? Is good. Don’t show dirt so much. Don’t need to wash that often.

Me? I’m wearing corporate drag to interview semi. Including Lady Di courts, which I believe are back in fashion (poof).

Hell, can you believe it’s almost 10 years since she pegged? Where were you when you heard the news? I’d just come back from a dw, with no newspapers or radios. Bit of a downer after a bril weekend, I must say.

17 07 2007
Semisweet

I woke up to the news on the Sunday after passing out from a bridal shower the night before. Couldnt believe it.
My cousins wedding was the same day as the funeral. Told her that Im not attending the wedding cos I have a funeral to go to. She wasnt impressed

17 07 2007
Arbchick

No idea where I was, or where I am now….

17 07 2007
Semisweet

Arbie, what have u been drinking/smoking/snorting/shooting up?

17 07 2007
Arbchick

How do you know me Semi….baaaaaaad to the bone.

17 07 2007
Semisweet

Night Dusty. Swt drms. Must do it again sometime *hugs*

17 07 2007
Semisweet

Night Dusty. Swt drms. Must do it again sometime *hugs**

17 07 2007
Dusty Muffin

Arbie, I’ve had too much red wine

You’ve had too much…ummmm.

Ag man, I give up. Good night

18 07 2007
Nossie

Semi sweetest…any news on the results yet? Are we celebrating victory or drowning our collective sorrows? You can ALWAYS find a reason to booze it up!!

18 07 2007
Semisweet

Hey Nossie, nothing yet. Im still stressing. Will let u know as soon as I find out. Dont know when that is going to be. Lets just booze it up while we waiting…if I dont pass, I’ll be too numb to realise it and if I do pass then I would have got the party started already 🙂

18 07 2007
Nossie

I like the way your head works!! You have been trained well….nothing will stand in YOUR way, I can see this.

18 07 2007
Semisweet

🙂 Every once in a while and try and think of something smart to do.

So u still feeling inadequate or have u worked out a solution yet?

18 07 2007
nossie

Inadequate?? Me?? NEVER!! Me strong like bull..I had my say. Told them like it is. They sat there with their mouths hanging open. It was a very empowering half hour. *note to self – repeat procedure every few weeks*.

OOps…shot myself in the foot there. Will have to re-classify alter-ego.

18 07 2007
Nossie

Semi-sweetie, its not inadequacy at all – its ingratitude that gets my goat. My aged mom is going in for a hip-replacement op soon so…that means I will have to move in with her for at least two weeks. I hope the Big Man up there is watching – maybe someday someone will take care of me when I get there (not UP THERE but there – were mom is right now!!) Must buy a laptop. Serious side effects will suely take hold if I dont get any e-mail or are not able to write on my blog..

18 07 2007
Dusty Muffin

nossie – a bad bad beastie this blogging is

18 07 2007
Nossie

HUH? *looks puzzled*

18 07 2007
Nossie

Ok, I get it now. Apologies….brain on go-slow. *must sleep*/*must go to gym for good head-clearing-workout*…I choose the former.

19 07 2007
Nossie

Semi-sweetie, any news of the dreaded results yet? The aeroplane has gone over long ago and I can’t stand the suspence….Oh, hallo, Jack, there you are!!!

19 07 2007
Nossie

Dusty…what can I say – I’m bored. Maybe I should get a hobby….any ideas, Arbie???

19 07 2007
Semisweet

Hey ladies. How is everyone?
No Nossie. Wasnt at work today so dont know abt results yet.
Had a wonderful experience with the maid yesterday. I got home from work and having had dinner with a friend, at abt 9 to find out that my maid locked me out the house. Had to find a locksmith (surprising call abt a dozen and only one was on call – so much for advertising 24hours service).
Locksmith comes out lets me into the house, changes lock and charges me R730. Not very happy.
Think Im also going to start an illicit relationship with Jack.

20 07 2007
Nossie

LOL…ag, shame, semi-sweeitie. that has happened to me too but fortunately for me, at the time, my youngest sprog saw still small, so we removed a few panes of glass for the louvres (it was frighteningly easy), he climbed into the lounge and openend the front door from the inside!! But I, in all truth, couldn’t blame the maid – I had left my keys inside, closing the front door behind me (Yale lock) without realising I had made a boo-boo. Jusy yesterday, our one geyser blew a gasket…24 hour plumber came out (yes, with obligatory “crack”), spent 5 minutes toggling a gismo and charged us R540!!! Me-thinks hubbee is in the wrong profession.

20 07 2007
Semisweet

Hey. I agree Nossie. I said the same thing to a friend…Im in the wrong profession. I should be in one of those then my callout fees can be ridiculous as well. My charge out rate at the moment is pretty high but it gets earned by the company and I see a little tippance of it on tip day, sorry, I mean pay day.
Btw, I didnt pass my exams :(. Now I have to write again. Its so frustrating…..need 75% to pass, I got 71%….arrrggggg….thats ok though…a friend got 73% 😦 How’s that for a rotten start to the weekend.?

Sorry to hear about your mishap as well. I live in a complex and for some reason the geyser of the lady below me is in my ceiling. A couple years ago, her geyser burst…guess who’s townhouse was ruined…all the inconveniences….you know sometimes I think it I didnt have bad luck, I wouldnt have any luck at all…lol

Nah, Im not that unlucky….think I should start a gratitude journal…. Im grateful for waking up this morning. Im grateful for being a ‘fortunate’ one with a job, food, shelter and clothing. Im grateful for the people who I know and love and who love me.

Thats my journal for today 🙂

20 07 2007
Semisweet

Nossie – abt your ‘insecurities’ Im glad you told them where they stand and and where to get off. Maybe you do need to reiterate every few weeks/months lest they forget your purpose.

Good luck to your mom and my thoughts and prayers are with her. Im sure things will go well.

In the words of the wise Justin Timberlake (ha ha ha) ‘What goes around comes around’.

Someone will be there for you in your time of need 😉

20 07 2007
Nossie

“FULL-ON-SWEENESS”…thanks for the kind words. Im really sorry re the exams…must just kill you to think if only i had written this or done this differently. But don’t beat yourself up about it, these things happen for a porpose or a lesson of some sorts (sometimes I find myself look skywards saying “enough lessons already, I get the message!!”. You are right girl, the wheel does turn but bloody hell, when already?? Have a great weekend. Try Jack with one (only one) block of ice and a splash of lime…this could be the begining of a beautiful and lasting friendship….

20 07 2007
Semisweet

Its cool. Im over the exam results now. Looking forward to the Fallout Boy concert tonight. Gonna rock.
Although I also question the purpose most times. Ive also had enuf lessons. I have so much character now from all the character-building experiences.
Have a great weekend as well Nossie and just chill and take it easy.
Yep, gonna make 2 new friends this weekend, Jack and Johnnie.

20 07 2007
Nossie

Atta girl!!!

20 07 2007
Semisweet

Yeah, then I’ll ‘keep walking’….

20 07 2007
Nossie

My thoughts are turning in the direction of a Blog titled “Slippers vs Stilletto’s”…

21 07 2007
Semisweet

Read your blog Nossie….Im with you. I have my safe, comfortable slippers and the sexy stilettos. It does make u feel like a completely different person.

*for some reason I cant comment on that blog*

22 07 2007
Arbchick

Nossie…..hobbies – ideas – I have many……but their not recommended – trust me – keep your life as simple as possible – else you end up like me – internal turmoil personified. Still – it has its moments of sheer bliss to compensate for the continuous, nagging, ache. Pffffttt…listen to me – always get depro on Sunday avie’s – something to do with the lull and drone and butteriness….

22 07 2007
Arbchick

Ooooh…here they are…..hell, this is confusing – did you post this blog twice???

22 07 2007
Arbchick

What keeps you on your toes Nossie – remember…sharing IS caring darl’

22 07 2007
Arbchick

Sorry Nossie…I’m as focused as a freak landslide – and that’s on a good day….when you get to know me better – you will learn that I always catch the ‘arbest detail’ but sooooo miss the bigger picture…..*sigh*

23 07 2007
Nossie

Arbie…I call that state of mind (mostly MY natural state) – “Picking up stompies”…

6 08 2007
Agony Aunt

Phant…
What do you mean by “Putting lies onto the net is just plain not “nice”! But then that is a concept you would have difficulty understanding.”
Elaborate…

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